Pelvic Floor dysfunction many times has roots in emotional trauma and turmoil. This is part of my story.

I was asked to write a guest blog post for a wonderful female portrait photographer after a conversation we had at a networking event. I’ve decided to share it here almost 2 years later…. The work she does with women resonates so much with the work I do as a Change Facilitator and Transformation Coach to help women understand, unpack, shed their baggage and heal their bodies.

I found myself on this path in my business after years of self-discovery, following the signs my own body gave me to get to a place where I felt better, really better. 

I had suffered depression as a teenager, hated my body and my face, married at 19. Had post natal depression after my two daughters where born, IBS, food intolerances, stress incontinence (I would pee myself when I laughed or moved a certain way) in my 20’s. I looked to exercise and nutrition as my answer to all, and while this helped me massively.  It didn’t solve everything that I was feeling in my body. 

At twenty seven years old after many hospital visits, I was told that my pelvic floor didn’t work properly! I was sent to specialist physio and after 18 months of working with her, I was told that surgery was the only option.

Some years later I discovered that it hadn’t been the only option. My food intolerances and even the diet that I had been given by the incontinence ‘specialists’ had added to the inflammation in my digestive system, putting pressure on my bladder which had worsened my symptoms. Great information but too late to evade the surgery. 

Fast forward 18 years and 2 more children. I had separated from my husband, met  a new man and had children with him.

I now also had a full prolapse of the bladder which was worsening at each check up; they scheduled me for surgery. The cause, they said, had been big babies and lots of exercise and I now had no other option. At the time I was in a very volatile relationship with my sons father and ‘me time’ didn’t exist. My self care routine was: just keep going.

I chose the invasive surgery. My emotional place at that time was that of self blame and to a certain extent victim mindset. I was stuck in a cycle of shame, doubt and self punishment. This had been my fault for not looking after myself better etc etc

After the prolapse surgery I looked for practical help and support to the leave the relationship I was in and broke free fom that constant cycle of drama and confusion to give myself time to do the work that I knew I needed to do on myself. 

This wasn’t just about doing exercise or eating well. This was deep stuff, I had to work on the beliefs that had seen me go through depression at a young age, post natal depression: beliefs that had led me to and had me stay in a relationship that was just truly horrible most of the time and damaging for me and all of my four children. 

I used all the tools I had in my toolbox that had been built up over the years to help myself, my family and my clients.  Performance psychology, Energy Work & Reiki, NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming), EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), TRE (Tremor Release Exercises) and added more including the incredible RTT Rapid Transformation Therapy which showed me how I could combine all my existing knowledge and tools and deliver them through hypnotherapy getting directly to the subconscious mind to get real deep healing and lasting change at a cellular level. 

As I healed certain pain points in my life, I felt my body change, my muscles shift, relax. 

At 46 years of age during a self-hypnosis session, my pelvic floor went into spasm and released.  

THAT was the day that confirmed to me 1100% that we hold the answers to EVERYTHING we need inside of us. There is no separation between Body Mind and Spirit. NONE.

Can I turn back the clock and see if I can heal without either or both of the surgeries? No! But I can continue to heal myself and  help other women to heal their pain points and trauma, and release tension from stored memories in their muscles that could be causing chronic pain and disease. 

Our body stores the memories and emotions of all of our experiences.. If there are some not so healthy things stored in there, fear, guilt, shame, it can literally be a pain in the butt or wreak havoc with the whole system. THIS is why I do the work that I do with people.

It’s so easy to just accept what is happening in life and brush it off with gentics, age, bad choices, etc but there is so much that we hold onto subconscioulsy, that even just changing our self talk can help alleviate physical symptoms! Yep I have seen improvement happen before my very eyes in just one session.

If you have some long term physical issues, please reach out!

Big love as aways Jx